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The Spirituality of Imperfection by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham 

Storytelling and the Search for Meaning

I remember reading this book—The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning. It was during the pandemic. And I was in much need of sanity inside the bubble of isolation that felt far from sane. 

This book felt more like a lighthouse in the storm of unknowing and the imperfection of health amidst this scary virus. 

Why, you might be asking? It delves into many amalgamations of diverse traditions, including Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, and Native American Spirituality. Be forewarned if you don’t like books that mention God and stories from different traditions. This might not be the best book to pick up.

And, if you’re someone like me who’s fascinated by a book bringing all these traditions together to explore the topic of spirituality through the lens of being imperfect, then you gotta keep reading and get a copy of this book.

Storytelling in my marketing circles seems to be the hot topic of the past few years. This book takes storytelling to a deeper and more thought-provoking level. It celebrates beauty and growth by recognizing our inherent flaws and mistakes. 

It nudges and even provokes you at times to realize that control is just an illusion. It proposed that you surrender the pursuit of perfection. And when you do, you will actually open yourself up to a deeper, more authentic spiritual experience.

All of these are explored through storytelling, arguing that stories are the primary means through which you will understand yourself and your place in the world. Through stories, you will find common ground and shared imperfections that lead to connection and compassion.

My favorite part of the book that highlighted, made notes, and dog-eared is Part 2 – The Discoveries of Alcoholics Anonymous. He shares many of the miracles and spirituality from Bill W, the founder of AA. Specifically, on page 120, the authors share their philosophy about addiction. They believe that addiction represents an extreme attempt to exert control and certainty of one’s life’s experience. 

That addicts often start using substances as a way to manage their unpleasant feelings and life problems. They are seeking a “magical” solution that will make them feel better and allow them to avoid dealing with the messiness and uncertainty of life.

To overcome this is to accept life on life’s terms, embrace imperfection, and seek progress through surrender. When you’re in recovery, it requires you to admit powerlessness and embrace the spiritual process that’s centered around acceptance, surrender, community, and taking life as it comes. 

This is definitely my experience of being in recovery for the past 7 years. Having a community of like-minded people focused on progress, not perfection or control, is one of the many ways that have helped me recover. 

Read on for more insights and quotes from the book!

A Book Summary to Inspire You To Read It!

Quick Summary:
The Spirituality of Imperfection by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham explores the concept of finding spiritual growth through embracing your imperfections. Its captivating stories from various traditions offer many insights into the healing process. It emphasizes the beauty and necessity of imperfection in personal and spiritual growth. 

Who Ought to Read this Book and Why:
The Spirituality of Imperfection is ideal for those in addiction recovery, especially if you’re familiar with or following the Twelve-Step Program. This is also an insightful and valuable read for spiritual seekers, people battling perfectionism, mental health professionals, people interested in storytelling and wisdom traditions, and anyone interested in personal development from this perspective.

NOTE: Spirituality is not about religion. Spirituality is a personal, inner pursuit of meaning and connection with a higher power, focusing on individual growth and inner peace. Religion, in contrast, is organized and structured, involving specific beliefs, rituals, and communal practices centered around worship.

Table of Contents:

A Note to the Reader

An Introduction: The Story of Spirituality

Part One: The Roots of Wisdom

  1. The Fragrance of a Rose
  2. Beyond the Ordinary
  3. The Reality of Limitation
  4. A Sense of Balance
  5. Experiencing the Spiritual
  6. Shared Vision, Shared Hope

Part Two: The Discoveries of Alcoholics Anonymous

  1. Spirituality Is Essential … but Different
  2. Not Magic, but Miracle
  3. An Open-Ended Spirituality
  4. A Pervasive Spirituality

Part Three: Experiencing Spirituality

  1. Release
  2. Gratitude
  3. Humility
  4. Tolerance
  5. Forgiveness
  6. Being-at-Home



Things You Will Discover:

The Amazing Power of Storytelling – what I loved about this book is that it shared some stories I’d never heard of before. As well as sharing ones that I had using these insights about spirituality, perfectionism, and enlightenment. These stories shared spiritual truths and anecdotes from different cultures, like the Zen tale of a student seeking to attain enlightenment. The master had asked him to describe the sound of a hand clapping, leading the student to realize that some truths can’t be grasped intellectually. They must be experienced.

The Illusion of Control – This is a recurring theme throughout the book. What I think is important about this is the fact that our desire for control is often an illusion set up by our ego. It stressed the importance of living in the present moment and enjoying life. And not obsessing and stressing over our lack of control over every aspect of it. 

Humility and Self-Acceptance – If you wish to grow spiritually, humility is essential. True wisdom and spirituality come from recognizing one’s own limitations and flaws.

Compassion and Forgiveness – This is a central theme throughout the book – compassion and forgiveness towards oneself. It’s about letting go of your flaws and quest for perfection and embracing them. I always look at love, compassion, forgiveness, and loving people because of their flaws, not in spite of them. It’s also about feeling your feelings and letting them go. And it’s about finding humor and compassion even in dire and stressful situations. 

Inspiring Book Quotes:

“When a man comes to you and tells you your own story, you know that your sins are forgiven. And when you  are forgiven, you are healed.”

To Be Human:
To deny our errors is to deny ourselves, for to be human is to be imperfect, somehow error-prone. To be human is to ask unanswerable questions, but to persist in asking them, to be broken and ache for wholeness, to hurt and to try to find a way to healing through the hurt.”

The Constant Search:
“The search for spirituality is, first of all, a search for reality, for honesty, for true speaking and true thinking. At least from the time of the Delphic oracle’s first admonition, Know thyself, the arch-foe of spirituality has been recognized to be “denial”—the self-deception that rejects self by attempting to repudiate the essential paradox that is our human be-ing.”

We Simply Can’t Control:
“We modern people are problem-solvers, but the demand for answers crowds out patience—and perhaps, especially, patience with mystery, with that which we cannot control.”

Lack of Gratitude:
“Those who lack gratitude’s vision do not possess things; things possess them. And that is misery.”

Your Experience Matters:
“a journey becomes a pilgrimage as we discover, day by day, that the distance traveled is less important than the experience gained.”

The Definition of Addiction:
“Turning to the magic of chemicals signifies the desperate (and doomed) attempt to fill a spiritual void with a material reality— to make ‘magic’ a substitute for miracle addiction has been described as the belief that whenever there is ‘something wrong with me,’ it can be ‘fixed’ by something outside of me..”

The Drunkenness Shortcut:
“Drunkenness can be a kind of shortcut to the higher life, the attempt to achieve a higher state without an emotional and intellectual effort.”

Spirituality is Not Magic:
“The discovery that spirituality involves mystery and Miracle rather than magic was critically important to the early members of Alcoholics Anonymous because the search for Magic had proved fatal Time and Time again; those recovering alcoholics who sought magical Solutions as a way of dealing with lights on going problems inevitably return to drinking.”

It’s About The Struggle:
“These voices, the voices of the sages and saints, insist that it is the struggle itself that defines us. Our many failures give meaning to our few successes. Only when we peer into the abyss can we appreciate the magnificence of heights that are more than mere ‘highs.’”

The Gift of Stories:
“The vision of giftedness is transmitted through stories. Stories speak the language of the heart, giving us the means to express our gratitude. Among the greatest of modern spiritual storytellers is Ellie Wiesel. A survivor of the holocaust, Wiesel received the Nobel Peace Prize for his writings, which speaks so profoundly to the experience in the spirituality of the Jewish people.”

Don’t Cling:
“So long as we cling, we are bound. The alcoholic knows the truth as well as anyone on this earth, for it is the very essence of addiction to cling to some fixed, repetitive, once meaningful, but now self-destructive pattern. Yet the alcoholic and the rest of us are one way or another—hang on. Let go, the voice calls out.”

Take Pride In The Now:
“Andrew Carnegie famously put it. There’s nothing shameful about sweeping. It’s just another opportunity to excel—and to learn. But you’re so busy thinking about the future you don’t take any pride in the tasks you’re given right now. You just phone it all in, cash your paycheck, and dream of some higher station in life. Or you think, This is just a job, it isn’t who I am, it doesn’t matter. Foolishness. Everything we do matters—whether it’s making smoothies while you save up money or studying for the bar—even after you have already achieved the success you sought.”

What’s Life Asking You To Do?
“First, we need to become detached from Material gain, second from self-importance, and third from the urge to dominate others. Only through this process of stripping away these attachments, she writes (Mary Reuter theologian), can we lay claim to spiritual progress.”

This Is Just A Moment In Time:
“Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him. ~Aldous Huxley”

On Giving Up The Past:
“Explanations have to do with exploring causes, with digging down into the past in an effort to exert whatever control is still possible over the past. Forgiveness, on the other hand, has to do with letting go of the past, giving up the claims to control the past, and refusing to be controlled by it.”

About the Authors: Ernest Kurtz & Katherine Ketcham

Ernest Kurtz is the author of Not-God: A History of Alcoholics Anonymous, A.A.: The Story, and Shame and Guilt. He holds a Ph.D. in the history of American civilization from Harvard and is currently affiliated with the Center for Self-Help Research at the University of Michigan.

Katherine Ketcham is the co-author of 13 books, including the New York Times bestseller Broken: My Story of Addiction and Redemption by William Moyers and the bestselling classics Under the Influence with James Milam and The Spirituality of Imperfection with Ernest Kurtz.  More than 1.4 million copies of her books are in print, and her books have been translated into 13 languages.  She has three adult children and lives in Walla Walla, Washington, with her husband.

Where I Would Recommend Getting Your Copy:

The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning, by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham  

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Soulfully Yours,

Shannon McCaffery

Shannon McCaffery

Strategic Marketing Coach & Consultant

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