Who Are You Really?
How would you answer that question?
Would you say things like…
- You’re a mom, dad, sister, brother, or grandparent
- Your occupation
- Where you grew up
- Your values and attributes
- Your interests or hobbies
- Your strengths and weaknesses
- Right now, you’re depleted, feeling down, and just not happy
- Something else, totally different…
What would be the right or correct answer?
The funny thing is, whatever answer you would give, there honestly isn’t any right or wrong answer. It just is.
This is one of the many things I’m learning as I really delve into my own personal development. I’ve been studying many spiritual books and also books on positive psychology and even neuropsychology.
I’m discovering is that “who you are” is a VERY loaded question, depending on who you ask. In the more spiritual context, you are much deeper and serve a much higher purpose than any experience, education, marriage, kids, or identity.
Yet, most people are so in their heads all the time, and not ever in the present moment. They just go through the day in automatic mode. Can you relate?
Let’s go one step further – if you’re struggling right now with your mindset and staying positive during this wacky year of 2020 – Then this will really help you – promise.
Think about what your life would be like if you were free from any limitations, negative thoughts, and simply felt inner peace…
What I want to share with you is one of my top 5 ultimate best books that truly changed my life. This book is #1 in my big library of books. It takes this discussion of “who you are” and what you’re struggling with right now and turns it on its head.
This is how I summarize the book to my family, friends, colleagues, and anyone that will listen (like you 🙂 – You know all those annoying negative thoughts that keep piling up minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day in your head. I mean those the voices in your head. The ones that keep you occupied the majority of the time. (In fact, I used to love being lost in thought in my head… until after I read this book and started working with a Life mastery coach.)
Let’s say you’re sitting on a couch. Let’s take all those negative thoughts in your head and place them on the couch next to you.
Next, I want you to turn those thoughts into a person.
Now, let me ask you a very important question – “Would you want to be friends with that person?”
I hoping you give me a resounding “NO!”
And if you do, then my next question is – “Well, why then do you listen to all those negative thoughts in your head?”
You are NOT your thoughts, not your feelings, not your pain, not your sensations – YOU ARE THE OBSERVER of them. Your work is to be in “The Seat Of Your Soul.”
That’s just one thing you will discover when you pick up this book today.
Some Specifics and Quick Book Review to Entice You to Read It!
Quick Summary: The author, Michael Singer, walks you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions. (BTW – your thoughts create your feelings.) He helps you uncover the source and the fluctuations of these thoughts. Then he shows you HOW you can FREE yourself from these habitual thoughts that lead to emotions, that then limit your consciousness and keep you sleep-walking through your life.
These methods are rooted not only in spiritual but also in conscious and positive psychology. Keep an open mind about how this book could help you. 🙂
WHO Ought to Read this Book: If you’re tired of all those thoughts that run around endlessly in your head sabotaging you… Or maybe you’re a student of personal development and interested in a new way of looking at your thoughts and emotions. And perhaps you’re intrigued by exploring a unique way that you can get to the core of “who you really are…” Then this book wants to definitely be in your hands or in your ears, depending on how you want to consume it! Also, it would help if you were open to a little “woo woo” when the author talks about energy and how we block its flow.
Why Read this Book? This book is one of my all-time top 5 books I have ever read. (It’s one of the books I gave to my Nieces and nephews when they graduated college.) It’s had one of the most significant shifts in my life. I used to be a “negative Norbert,” as my coach used to call negative people. When you asked me how I was doing- sheesh, I’d give you a laundry list of all the things that have gone wrong or that have been out to get me. You know the type of person.
Well, it took me many years and working with a coach to see it and then DO SOMETHING about it. And I wished I’d read or heard about this book earlier. It solidified and made me even more aware of my thoughts and feelings, and how ME, I’m aware and in control. My thoughts and feelings aren’t facts. They just are. I am in control…
A Couple of Things You Will Discover:
- You are definitely NOT your thoughts.
- You are definitely NOT your feelings. They’re just facts.
- Your thoughts don’t define who you are. They’re just the stories you keep telling yourself and what your conscious mind perceives.
- The ultimate goal of the book is that you find your way back “home.” That is the place where your energy flows. Be like a rock in a river, and the water is your life that you let flow around and through you.
- Give up the struggle to stay and be who you think you are and discover how to embrace change all the time.
- Don’t fight with your thoughts (aka your mind). You are not the thinking mind. You are the one who’s aware of the thinking mind, the observer, being in the seat of your soul.
- Notice when you’re happy, your heart is open. When you’re not happy, your heart is closed.
Quotes (from the book) that Will Inspire You:
You Are Not the Voice In Your Head:
“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind – you are the one who hears it.”
“Only you can take inner freedom away from yourself, or give it to yourself. Nobody else can.”
Walking Around Feeling Open & Love
“What does it feel like to identify more with Spirit than with form? You used to walk around feeling anxiety and tension; now you walk around feeling love. You just feel love for no reason. Your backdrop is love. Your backdrop is openness, beauty, and appreciation. You don’t make yourself feel that way; that is how Spirit feels … You don’t claim to understand what is happening to you; you just know that as you go further and further back, it gets more and more beautiful.”
Let Go of Melodrama In Your Life:
“If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama. This is the part that thinks there’s a reason not to be happy. You have to transcend the personal, and as you do, you will naturally awaken to the higher aspects of your being. In the end, enjoying life’s experiences is the only rational thing to do.
You CAN Just Simply Be Happy – It Really Is Your Choice:
You’re floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You’re going to die anyway. Things are going to happen anyway. Why shouldn’t you be happy? You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. There’s always going to be something that can bother you if you let it.”
About the Author:
MICHAEL A. SINGER is the author of #1 New York Times bestseller The Untethered Soul and New York Times bestseller The Surrender Experiment, which has been published worldwide. He had a deep inner awakening in 1971 while working on his doctorate in economics and went into seclusion to focus on yoga and meditation. (You can read about this in his first book – The Surrender Experiment.)
He founded the Temple of the Universe in 1975. It’s a yoga and meditation center where people of any religion or beliefs can come together to experience inner peace.
He is also the creator of a leading-edge software package that transformed the medical practice management industry and founding CEO of a billion-dollar public company.
Where I Would Recommend You Get Your Copy:
P.S. I’d also highly recommend his first book that’s mentioned above- The Surrender Experiment.